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Should Schools Provide Birth Control?

Tell us what you think about schools distributing birth control to students in this week's Moms Talk.

 

Moms Talk is a weekly feature on all Lehigh Valley Patches in which local parents, caregivers and other members of the community are invited to share opinions and advice on parenting topics.

This week’s Moms Talk question relates to schools distributing birth control.

Here’s what we want to know:

Should middle school and high school nurses be allowed to distribute birth control to students?

A WebMD report says condoms in schools don't increase teen sex. A teen wellness clinic at a school in Virginia provides easy access to contraceptives that a USA columnist thinks has helped reduce the teen pregnancy rate there.

 

Post your comments below and tell us what you think.

Our Moms Council members include: 

  • Lisa Amey of Upper Milford Township is a stay-at-home mom to an 8-year-old boy and a 5-year-old girl. A past president of the MOMS Club of Emmaus and longtime member of MOPs (Mothers of Preschoolers), Lisa is an Independent Consultant for Arbonne International. 
  • Lisa Drew of Emmaus is a certified nutritionist and personal trainer, wellness and fitness coach with more than 17 years of experience. She is the mother of a 13-year-old girl and a 9-year-old boy.
  • Jennifer Elston of Emmaus has almost two decades of professional experience in child development and counseling. She is currently a stay-at-home mom to two beautiful girls. Together with her husband, Chris, she owns Christopher Elston Photography.
  • Jeanne Lombardo of Nazareth is the mother of a 10-year-old boy and a 5-year-old girl. She’s new to the Lehigh Valley, having moved to Nazareth from Bergen County, NJ in January.
  • Lisa Merk of Lower Macungie is a stay-at-home mother of four boys – a 12-year-old and 6-year-old triplets. Lisa is a past president of the MOMS Club of Lower Macungie East. In her “spare” time, Lisa teaches piano to school-age children.
  • Zoila Bonilla Paul of Bethlehem is a stay-at-home mom to two girls – a 5-year-old and a 14-month-old. Zoila is a member of her local “moms’ club” and says she is “well-versed in the fun that children can bring.”
  • Beth Sharpless of Emmaus works part time in a local emergency department as a nurse and part time from home as a customer support specialist. She has two children -- a boy who is almost 2 and a 5-year-old girl. She says they love spending time outdoors and dancing.

If you would like to become a part of the Moms Council and/or have ideas for future Moms Talk questions, please email jennifer.marangos@patch.com.

Related Topics: Birth Control, Schools, Teen Pregnancy, contraceptives, and moms talk

Average Joe

4:13 pm on Sunday, June 3, 2012

When will "they" realize that the social engineering by public entities like government and schools that was started in the 1960s has been a total disaster upon our society.The US public education system is falling behind the rest of the industrialized world. Maybe the schools should focus on educating the kids instead of sticking their noses into the kids sex lives.

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bill frome

4:42 pm on Sunday, June 3, 2012

Heck no for more reasons than I can list the major its against my Religion. Yes I'm Catholic and the government has no right to violate my religious beliefs. Have you ever heard of the Constitution???? If it is provided by the school the tax payers are paying for it which includes me. Birth Control is not the answer better parenting is the answer and instilling morals might help. Kids have no place having sex.

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Carl W

7:09 pm on Tuesday, June 5, 2012

Contact 'Population Connection,' the fmr. '0-Population Growth.' People, that includes kids, are going to have sex. Prophylactics are the least effective way (because they're seldom used) of preventing pregnancy, kids OR adults. There are SAFE pills out there, including the "Morning After" pill, for people who realize their goof, or have a change of mind. Make these available to kids.

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Carl W

7:13 pm on Tuesday, June 5, 2012

I'm paying taxes for school, also, and don't have any kids. I'll pay for it!

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bill frome

1:52 am on Wednesday, June 6, 2012

Carl W You were once young right so you went to school right which means there were plenty of people paying taxes for you to go to school and some of them had no kids. Unless you own a house you pay very little taxes to fund school. 80% of funding for school comes from the property tax.

Mom

5:08 pm on Sunday, June 3, 2012

This is precisely why the United States rankings in math science and English are abysmal. Here's a novel idea, the Department of Education can stick to educating our children and the parents can parent!

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James Walter

5:11 pm on Sunday, June 3, 2012

Tricky question. While we would like to think high school kids aren't having sex reality is they are starting as early as middle school. Being a teacher myself, I know the direction parenting has gone over the years and I agree (for once) with Bill about instilling morals to kids. I don't want my tax money going to buy contraceptives for teens. That's kind of endorsing the act as acceptable in my eyes. If it is funded without tax dollars I might change my tune a little bit as long as a phone call goes home every time a student takes one to clue the parents in.

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tamarya

9:04 am on Monday, June 4, 2012

I agree with you on your last sentence. That is a big thing, notification to parents usually do not occur unless it is something a parent does wrong or something the child does wrong. Yet parents are fully held accountable for what even a 16 yr old does, yet schools will help keep stuff hidden from parents, like giving them condoms so they can have sex without mom and dad having any knowledge of it. Same way they can get abortions in clinics without mom and dads consent.

Jonathan Gerard

5:21 pm on Sunday, June 3, 2012

The question wasn't "Should kids have sex?" The question was, "Should schools make sure that those kids who are (wrongly) having sex make sure that at least they have access to birth control?" The answer to this actual question is, "Of course."
What's the alternative... that they create another human being?
That's an unacceptable way to punish either the kids for having sex or the parents for their alleged failure.
There is nothing wrong with thinking that teens should not have sex. What IS wrong is thinking that denying them birth control will prevent this. Denying birth control is a guarantee of more unwanted pregnancies and more STDs.

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Average Joe

6:19 pm on Sunday, June 3, 2012

"There is nothing wrong with thinking that teens should not have sex. What IS wrong is thinking that denying them birth control will prevent this. Denying birth control is a guarantee of more unwanted pregnancies and more STDs."

Jonathan, you are a little confused. No one is DENYING these kids birth control. Condoms are freely available at most retail outlets. How about a novel idea like demanding kids old enough to have sex to be RESPONSIBLE for getting their own protection?
We currently give them sex ed classes, so they SHOULD know to use protaction. Now you want to GIVE them condoms. What next? Will you want to put them on for them?

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bill frome

7:11 pm on Sunday, June 3, 2012

Birth Control does not stop STD's it actually causes more. Also birth control is not even close to being 100% effective. I know plenty of people who used birth control and still got pregnant. In fact one of my close friends got pregnant twice while on birth control. Condoms have even a lower effective percentage than birth control. I'm sure you've heard the only 100% way of not get std's or getting pregnant is abstinence.

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Mik

10:56 pm on Tuesday, June 5, 2012

Planned Parenthood. Not schools.

Mom

5:34 pm on Sunday, June 3, 2012

What is WRONG Jonathan is your thinking the role of the school is to provide contraception!

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RubyGirl

2:34 pm on Tuesday, June 5, 2012

Mom, I don't think your "right" makes Jonathan "wrong". I also do not think Jonathan has written that he thinks it is the role of the school to provide contraception. I do know this. reality is is that teens are having sex; whether they are Catholic, Lutheran, Jewish, Atheist. They are experiencing it.

Jonathan Gerard

5:37 pm on Sunday, June 3, 2012

Our sex ed programs are inadequate because they focus primarily, if not exclusively, on the mechanics (I.e. the biology) and the dangers of sex. But all our teens know that being an adult includes a healthy and enjoyable sex life--and of course they aspire to be adults. And in many ways (especially physically) they are. Sex ed classes need also to focus on the pleasures and responsibilities of sex. They need to admit, from the start, that sex is, in a proper context, good. Is this a conversation we're mature and saavy enough to have with our kids? If so, an important chapter in the discussion would be on lubrication. Without it, sex hurts a woman. A discussion about lubrication importantly requires that one include the woman's legitimate and necessary needs. That is, it would include a discussion about how to talk to women, how to treat women, and how to respect women. Not too many teen age males have a clue about this and, if their fathers are ignorant of it--they surely will be unable to pass along anything useful or helpful to their sons.
Thus in a very real way, the future of healthy marriages depends upon teens learning all about lubrication when they first learn about sex.

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Average Joe

6:31 pm on Sunday, June 3, 2012

Jonathan,in case you are not aware, humans have been having sex & marriage for a looooong time w/o the benefit of sex education and other government/public school attempts at social engineering.
And it must be just plain coincidence that the divorce rate & teen age promiscuity just happened to explode since the 1960's when government went hog wild with social engineering & intrusion into the private citizen's life.
What the social engineers have succeeded in is the elimination of the words shame, embarrassment & responsibility from the nation's vocabulary.
What we have now id the result of "the village raising a child" instead of demanding that parents raise their own kids.
And BTW, Jon, based on your picture you must have forgotten your teenage years.
Teenagers don't need lubrication. That becomes necessary many years past one's teens.

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bill frome

7:15 pm on Sunday, June 3, 2012

Sex is not part of being an adult its part of being in a committed adult relationship. Again your thinking is wrong. I seriously hope you have no kids.

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tamarya

11:05 pm on Tuesday, June 5, 2012

When I was in school sex ed taught about the consequence in sex, the responsibility of sex, we were also taught all the methods of birth control, we were taught what abortion was. Last but not least we had to do the egg baby project where you had to carry that around as the same a child would be with you every minute. Teaching about lubrication and the enjoyments of sex, it is no surprise more kids want to do it. While at it in sex ed teens should be taught to stay away from older men and women and teach them how someone's life is destroyed because of being a horny teen.

Jonathan Gerard

5:39 pm on Sunday, June 3, 2012

Dear Mom,
Parents should provide contraception. But if they don't, someone has to or there will be a tragedy.

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bill frome

7:17 pm on Sunday, June 3, 2012

Jonathan too bad your mom didn't use contraception or did she and it just didn't work that would explain your warped sense of thinking

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Missy Moyer-Schneck

9:46 am on Monday, June 4, 2012

This is what is wrong with our society, the belief that if one person is not supplying something to someone, that someone else has to. People need to stop the assumption that they are automatically owed something....It's my job, and only my job as a parent to direct MY children when it comes to their sex life. I will and DO enforce with my kids that this is something very personal between two committed adults, not two middle school kids and not two high school kids. It is MY responsibility and ONLY MY responsibility

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John

10:02 am on Tuesday, June 5, 2012

So procreation is now considered a tragedy? They have clinics out there to dissect your "tragedy", and as those who view it as such utilize those facilities.

Mom

5:50 pm on Sunday, June 3, 2012

You don't get it. THis is NOT the role of government!!!! You can pontificate until the cows come home. And Lubrication? Are you for real? don't want to sound mean but you're quite a wingnut!

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Eric S

8:23 pm on Sunday, June 3, 2012

Absolutely not. I'm not concerned with it "promoting sex" or "on religious grounds". It isn't the school's responsibility. It is between the parents and the child. This is just way too much interference of governmental agentcies into our personal lives. If kids want condoms they can purchase them at any store. If they want birth control they need to get parental consent. If they want to do neither they are going to deal with the outcome.

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Beth

8:50 pm on Sunday, June 3, 2012

Ahh, if only the parents did parent. I think if parents have an open line of communication with their children, then maybe they'd have the opportunity to provide them with birth control. Lets face it, though-that isn't the reality most of the time. Having it available for them in the nurses office is a good idea-just maybe not out of taxpayer monies. We can talk all we want about "mature adults, committed relationships.....", but that is far from reality-that is a warped sense of thinking . Sometimes school is the place that kids would rather be and a place where they feel more comfortable than at home. If that's the case, then I'd like to think the nurse or counselor would be able to help them with whatever they might have going on in their lives.
And, when used properly and as prescribed, these various methods of birth control are pretty darn effective.

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tamarya

11:22 pm on Tuesday, June 5, 2012

Yeah my mom was really open with me, I knew I could go to her and say I was ready for birth control, however when I failed to do thatand she found out what I was doing thats when I was told" unless you get a place of your own, the father is willing to stay with you, and a full time job to support it, you either do not have sex or get on bc, because if I found out you are pregnant you will not be raising your child here."

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tamarya

9:44 am on Wednesday, June 6, 2012

One thing I will admit, if a child is afraid to talk to their parents about the fact they are having sex, the parents did their job. Because no parent in their right mind should be teaching kids to go out and have sex in middle school especially. And if kids are afraid to talk to their parents about the fact they are having sex, they know they are doing wrong, I knew I was, howver some kids do not have parents that will be up front with them, and just ignore the fact of what their child is doing.

Kayla Hudak

9:32 pm on Sunday, June 3, 2012

I think they should. A lot of kids are too embarrassed to go out and actually buy methods of birth control. Sure it's free at some clinics and such but the school would be a great resource for them.

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Barbara Scherer

12:01 pm on Monday, June 4, 2012

If they're too embarrassed to buy them at the store, they should also be too embarrassed to be having sex! It's not the responsibility of schools (taxpayers) to be providing birth control. These kids need parents to lay the law down as my generation and our parents did. If a girl got pregnant she was going to marry that boy no matter what and he was going to work his butt off to support them. A family would have been disgraced. That fear in kids' minds kept most of us on the right path. There's lots of birth control methods out there (some free) but kids today don't use them anyway. Look around and see how many young irresponsible single mothers are out there who just keep having more and more kids for society to support. And where are those deadbeat dads............out playing house with 5 other girls and probably spreading diseases to all of them. There are no morals with these kids today! They could have a fist full of condoms but they still don't use them!!!

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Kayla Hudak

1:50 pm on Monday, June 4, 2012

This is a whole new generation. If you haven't notice things are not like they were back in your days. Yes most of these teenagers are irresponsible, but look around, society has fallen greatly. Things have changed. Kids are having sex in middle school already!
And if you haven't noticed already, where are your hard earned tax dollars going? I have a brother and sister in high school and they weren't even taught the states and state capitals in school! Basic knowledge, but schools are failing, and education is dropping, the least they could do is help try to prevent teen pregnancy.
My opinion, I believe condoms should be available to teens in school. Simple as that. You can have your opinion, but i'm sticking with mine.

tamarya

7:20 am on Monday, June 4, 2012

When I was in school for condoms I would say yes. For pills and medications with side effects an absolute no, because that should be something discussed between parents and doctors, if it is safe for the teen to go on the pill. However today, since everything is pointed at mom and dad for what a child does, then it should be the parents providing the birth control and a parent has every right to know what their child is doing.

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tamarya

7:21 am on Monday, June 4, 2012

Personally not doing anything is the best method, but for myself I will admit it took me to my late 20's almost 30's to realize that lol.

Kara

7:58 am on Monday, June 4, 2012

It's amazing how soon we forget what it is like to be 16 and in love for the first time. Is there any more irrational creature? Even with the best parenting, informative and available education, and access to birth control at the pharmacy and planned parenthood those hormones will lead the smartest kid down a path full of land mines. AND It has always been the parents who were the most strict who were "shocked" to find their "true love waits" daughter pregnant-at least that's how it was in my day. parents always want to pretend that their child won't be the one who would do anything against their wishes/beliefs, but time and again it's not the case.
I'm not sure how to deal with birth control in schools, but you are a fool to think that the government, whether republican or democratically lead, will spend your money in a way that you always approve, in fact, on any given issue about 50% of our tax paying public will be unhappy.

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tamarya

8:05 am on Monday, June 4, 2012

Yeah I can tell you I did not wait, and it was not the lack of not being taught about sex and consequences it was basically being a teenager thinking I could do what I wanted. Not exactly sure it was hormones either, simple way to put it is kids do not listen and think they are invincible, they do not think they will get pregnant, they do not think they will get raped and so on, till they learn the hard way both can occur.

Lisa Amey

9:54 am on Monday, June 4, 2012

Are we talking distribution of condoms to everyone in a class talking about sex education, or are we talking about a nurse handing a condom to a student in a confidential setting when it's totally clear that it's needed and appropriate? I would support the latter.

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sherry

10:34 am on Monday, June 4, 2012

To Lisa...I agree with your reply.
As much as I feel sex should be part of a committed adult relationship (i.e. marriage) I do know that some don't wait. Part of that is our culture...just look what current TV is showing these days.

As for birth control pills, that is definitely a "NO". Any medication given to children should be supplied directly from the parents. There are very real side effects to these pills and parents deserve to be informed.

I also do not feel it is the taxpayers job to pay for birth control medication.

Salisbury Resident

10:26 am on Monday, June 4, 2012

Just who (or what) is going to fund this program? The money has to come from somewhere to pay for the items, the communication, and the administration of the program. Sure, we could have a sponsor...but I don't think a condom banner in the school or at the football stadium is a trade-off for free goods. (Picture it in your head...it would be absolutely hilarious though!)

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John

9:52 am on Tuesday, June 5, 2012

C'mon SR, you are sooo behind the times. The school board will contract with the most expensive manufacturer of the contraceptive products, and then hire 3 additional nurses (and a supervising administrator) to make sure the program is run according to guidelines, and then develop a parent committee (because parents will get a free tee shirt and hat to sit on the committee), as they will now be interested in the entire process (because now they sit on a committee). Schools will need to further cut band and gym classes to offset the costs AND raise your taxes a mere 3% ---its all good!!!!! "IT'S FOR THE CHILDREN!!!"

Scott Korin

12:53 pm on Monday, June 4, 2012

I don't see a problem with providing condoms to protect school students from STDs and unwanted pregnancy. Best way to stop abortions is to stop unwanted pregnancies.

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Beth

2:13 pm on Monday, June 4, 2012

Taxpayers pay for different programs for single teen-aged mothers and their children-why not try to prevent it in the first place by providing them with the appropriate support and guidance they need in school?

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John

9:46 am on Tuesday, June 5, 2012

I find this blog interesting. Very few have addressed the issue of the chemical effects this places ONLY on the female, not to mention the promotion of STD's as a multitude of research has shown that if the girl is on the pill, they are less likely to use a condom. Today school nurses cannot hand out aspirin, tylenol, and we must sign an act of Congress to offer peanut butter or other allergic items in cafeterias, however there are those that believe school nurses should have the ability to hand out oral contraceptives! NICE! And as a society we wonder how we have become what we have become. "Let somebody else take the responsibility"! And when little Julie gets the contraceptive, and it fails, and she ends up pregnant, is the school liable! Or what if little Julie has a chemical or hormonal response to the chemical offered to her body, and she finds herself hospitalized, who gave her these chemicals? Attorneys will have a field day! Parents should parent, and the job doesn't end once little Julie begins to menstrate, it gets considerably more complex! But apparently some parents are realizing that the 30 seconds of bliss isnt worth the 18 years of responsibility, and are now passing that on to their children! Amazing, and I didnt even get into the cost!

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Beth

8:42 pm on Tuesday, June 5, 2012

I don't think oral contraceptives should be provided, only condoms. Pills and injections should be overseen by a physician. And, of course parents should parent, but how do you fix that problem?

Mrs. B

12:35 pm on Tuesday, June 5, 2012

I do not believe a school should administer BC without the consent of the parents, but I do believe if the parents sign a permission slip it could be done. Just like dental exams are done at school to help busy parents and low income families, I believe the same could be done for BC

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Mrs. B

12:36 pm on Tuesday, June 5, 2012

I am a little curious as to the funding though.... there are more important things the schools need to worry about, BC is a parents financial issue, shouldn't be the schools.....

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Mama

8:52 pm on Tuesday, June 5, 2012

well since everyone is entitled to their own opinion.... so if a school is going to do that, they should send home a letter to everyones parents and if a parent agrees they should sign it and send it back and if a parent doesnt agree, they just dont send it back.
solves that problem
but as tax payers.... were already paying soo much what is a little more going to hurt.. taxes increase anyways for stupid reasons.....

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bill frome

1:44 am on Wednesday, June 6, 2012

How about my religious rights???? To you its only about taxes to me its about birth control being against my religious beliefs. The government has no right using my tax dollars for things that go against my religious beliefs. By your rational we should just keep raising taxes and never question anything. Thats fine when they increase taxes you can pay my share and everyone elses as well.

WILFREDO G. SALCEDO, Sr.

9:33 am on Wednesday, June 6, 2012

Unequivocal NO!..Let them provide their own contraceptions...A line is drawn...Adults do the talking, children do the walking (and accountability), and have those involved suffer the consequences.

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Jennifer Elston

6:33 pm on Thursday, June 7, 2012

Many times school is the only place a child can turn to when in need. I think the schools should keep condoms handy for kids who need them. I definitely don't think schools should distribute any other form of contraception.

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Mrs. W.

9:58 am on Tuesday, July 24, 2012

I have to say that I have read some very good points in both directions for this argument. I agree that it is the parents RESPONSIBILITY to talk to their child about birth control, but what about those parents that don't, don't care, or were teenage parents themselves. I also agree that having access to birth control in schools should come at the expense of taxpayers but what about the expense we are already paying for the number of teenagers giving birth who do not have insurance. That is estimated at $9 billion a year. I also agree that if teenagers want to have sex they should be responsible for getting it themselves but what if they do not have the money? This isn't going to keep them from having sex. I agree that sex should occur in a committed relationship, but this is not how teens think. Sex is a casual thing. I also agree that for some kids schools are their safe haven. It is where they feel comfortable and have people that they know care about them. For those who feel that schools should just focus on just educating, let me tell you that is impossible. The number of students that come to school from a two parent family with steady income and are involved in their child's life is shrinking. The number of students that are on free or reduced plans, come from single parent homes, see illegal activity daily, do not have meals at home, have parents in jail or have legal records of their own are growing. How can schools just educate when problems are bigger.

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